Originally, I was going to call this post something like “10 reasons why it sucks to be a single guy in Sydney”, dedicating it to a couple of young boys I know and deeply love like my own younger brothers that I never had. Then I realised that the other is in another country and in the same situation.
So, what’s this rant about you say?
I will try to not bore you with too much details. The thing is, it sucks to be that guy who is technologically savvy but has no / little clue when it comes to interacting with girls his age. The fact is, while the boys are playing their “Scrap Mechanic”s and watching their “One Piece”s, girls their age are constantly going out to clubs learning the ropes of becoming masterful manipulators (in a positive way). Finally, when these boys come out of their shells, walking into these clubs for the first couple of times, they soon realise they are out of their league. It’s too harsh of an environment. It seems like every other guy is cheating by doing Roids and gyming 24/7. Soon, they realise they’re too behind in “night club” race. They decide, “if a girl truly likes me for who I am, then appearances don’t matter” or something along those lines.
The wake-up call!
The reality is, both these boys are at a disadvantage at their home cities. Just like I once was. Everyone these days wants to be special, they want to be “unique”. Whereas these boys are as common as stock roms that come with your brand new phones (nerd terminologies, hehe). This is why I push the message to them, “get out”, “get as far as your home as possible”, because only then you will arrive at a place where no one knows who you are. The people around you are different, YOU ARE DIFFERENT to them. Different is good, different makes you special and interesting. It won’t be long before the girls you considered to be an 8 (or, in other words, out of your reach) who considered you to be a 5 (or treated you like you weren’t in their league) appear to act differently. At this new location, a magic trick happens, all of a sudden, this girl you see who you think looks like an 8 thinks she looks like a 5, at the same time she thinks you look like a 7 OMG!!! (note that the numbers here don’t relate to girls’ self confidence, but to the novelty of you being different in their location)
This exact scenario happened to me multiple times as I was traveling (before I met you ofcourse Leshanta… please don’t kill me *shivers with fear in the corner* ). It’s so sad that this sort of thing is happening all around the world. Boys and girls are setting such high expectations (appearance wise) of their future potential partners that they are spending more time alone than with someone special.
As I have mentioned this You Only Live Once idea in other posts. But, truly boys, I know you’re both young and everything – please, please, I’m begging you – don’t waste a single moment of your lives. Life is way too short and there are so many girls out there who would be lucky to have you. They just don’t exist where you currently residing. I know you all have your issues to deal with. But solve them as soon as humanely possible and get out there. This world is yours for the taking!